I’m a Sorority House Mom – Interesting things about the job
- I have been a sorority house mom for 5 years and have had to adjust to life with dozens of women.
- I fill the house with lots of snacks and had to get used to living with a lot of noise.
- The work pays quite well, and I get free rent, utilities, laundry, parking, and most meals.
My job is a bit unconventional, but living full time in a sorority house definitely keeps me on my toes.
I have been a stay-at-home mom for five years and my main jobs are security and facility management.
Read on for some of the things that surprised me the most when I first moved in.
My sorority girls can eat a lot
Contrary to what you might think a “typical” sorority girl eats, these women consume massive amounts of food, snacks, and drinks.
I regularly visit Costco to purchase quantities of everything from ice cream sandwiches to goldfish to coffee pods.
They’re hungry all the time, and it’s my job to make sure they have enough food to get them through the school week.
Building relationships with residents is not always easy
As a stay-at-home mom, I have to earn the respect of women, and they have to earn my trust.
They push boundaries and don’t always agree with my decisions, so it can be difficult to find a balance. Sometimes I get a grateful resident on Monday thanking me for fixing the washer and an angry resident on Tuesday telling me they hate the washer.
It’s not great to have a local saying something mean, but it comes with the territory. They won’t all like me, and that’s okay.
Dealing with parents is the worst part of my job
I didn’t take this job to work with parents, but they show up often.
They have high expectations of what their child’s living conditions should be like and are often louder than my residents.
I find myself redirecting parents to encourage their children to come and see me directly to develop their self-reliance skills. Nine times out of 10, we can solve their problems without mom texting me 32 times.
There are cliques within the clique
When you live with sisterhood women, you quickly see the groups that are lurking in the chapter. Women often find a home within the house.
It can be broken down into things like athletes, vegetarians, crowds, study groups, soccer fans, and so on.
Earplugs may be needed for sleeping
I live with a lot of screaming and running and laughing, and on the weekends I hear heels – so many heels.
I’m also often the first to know when someone starts a new workout routine in their bedroom because I’m on the first floor and the ladies are upstairs.
And don’t even get me started on the amount of chanting and chanting that occurs during recruiting season.
Being a sorority board member is really tough
The board of directors is made up of officers elected from within the chapter. My residents on the board are usually the ones in my apartment crying or yelling at other members.
The organizations give these members of the management board a great deal of responsibility and decision-making power. They plan events with hundreds of people, represent hundreds of members on campus, and often manage hundreds of thousands of dollars.
It’s high stress and high stakes, so the next time you see “Sorority President” on someone’s resume, know that they’ve probably broken their ass in that role.
I have become a de facto secret guardian
In addition to crying and screaming, residents will tell me what so-and-so did last weekend with so-and-so. Other times, they’ll tell me who broke the vase in the living room and ask for anonymity.
I learned when to be quiet and when not to repeat things.
Our security camera captures wild footage every weekend
Living in a sorority is not for the faint of heart.
Our security camera captures a lot of theft and vandalism, and I have to take it with a grain of salt.
Break our Halloween pumpkins in November? Fair enough. Steal our house letters? Not good. Ditch ding-dong drunk at 3 in the morning? Deep sigh.
It takes a full staff to run a sorority house
Each sorority house usually has a chef, housekeeper, maintenance staff, and a random group of contractors who keep the place running.
Being a stay-at-home mom is not just about supporting women, but also connecting with the people the house society (a team of former volunteers who manage the house’s finances) pays to keep the house a place. safe, clean and happy.
Work is a lot of work, but it pays well
Being a stay-at-home mom made financial sense to me. Besides earning a monthly salary, I don’t pay rent, utilities, parking, laundry, or most of my meals.
Like many stay-at-home moms I know, I also have a second job, which means I earn two wages.
My apartment isn’t huge and I don’t have a kitchen, but for the price it’s worth it.
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